Single in CT?
As I'm writing this, we've just passed the Thanksgiving 2010 Holiday. That means that many more people are about to be single according to a Facebook study. This study indicates that there is a significant spike in break-ups in the weeks leading up to 2 weeks before Christmas.
So if you're in a relationship, it's either time to put on your parachute or prepare to buy your significant other a gift for the holidays. If you happen to be one of the many singles out there, this might be an excellent moment to meet someone new as many relationships are purged.
Here's an idea that might increase your romantic chances whether it's for the holiday season or any other time of year: Partner Dancing. That's right!! Dancing with someone, a partner. Think of it as speed dating plus touching.
Do Something Different
Here's how it works: You get your single rear end off the couch, leave your ego at home, arrive to a local venue hosting a beginner dance lesson, say hello to a few people, take a one hour partner dance lesson (such as Hustle or West Coast Swing), learn the dances by rotating with multiple partners while laughing and dancing with some of your new found friends.
By the end of one lesson, you will have danced with numerous people. If you stay for one of the parties to try the dance you learned, you'll have danced with even more people. Here's the great thing - you have physically interacted with every person with whom you've danced. Most dances are going to feel a little challenging - but that's the secret. Showing that you're not afraid to try something new is when people can see who you are...not who you "pretend" to be.
Trying new things makes you desirable
Women like to see a guy who can try new things. It reveals that he's willing learn a new "language" and take risk in order to succeed. Men like to see a woman who will try partner dancing because it demonstrates that she is willing to trust a guy as a "leader" (in the caring sort of way).
Eventually, you will find people with whom you like to dance and who also like to dance with you. Sometimes it's just a friendship, sometimes it's more. The connection you have when you dance is a physical agreement - this is one of the keys to having a successful relationship.
Dances like Hustle and West Coast Swing are most useful because they are danced to contemporary music - the stuff you hear on the radio. Being able to partner dance to recognizable music makes you feel "hip", "up to date", "current" and "fresh" - it can also represent your ability to leave your "old baggage" behind. Best of all, dancing to popular music enables you to dance almost anywhere.
Your actions speak louder than your words
Most importantly, partner dancing is a tool. In this case, it's a way to meet many people in a short amount of time. Not just saying, "hello, my name is ____", rather it's a physical way of saying hello. Honestly, your name is the least important detail about you - your willingness to try new things, your adaptation to a new environment, your development of a secure lead or receptive follow will say more about you than your name ever could. My best advice - dance first, introduce yourself after...your actions are louder than words.
If you're looking for a place to try partner dancing in CT, try these regular Hustle and West Coast Swing classes.